C. A Nine-Point Inventory of Good Personal and Marital Qualities

Rate yourself on a scale of 0-5 on how much you experience each of the following "fruit of the Spirit” vital to a good, healthy relationship. You may also want to give your fiancé, mate or trusted friend the same list to fill out as they see you. Then work at a personal plan for growing more of each of these qualities:

___LOVE--I am able to be gracious and caring toward others in spite of their actions.

___JOY--I demonstrate a contagiously positive spirit even in trying circumstances.

___PEACE--I experience a deep sense of inner well-being in spite of stresses in my life.

___PATIENCE--I have the calm and strength to endure things (hold on, not give up) even under stress.

___KINDNESS--I consistently show respect and care toward others, no matter how I’m treated.

___GOODNESS--I am able to act positively toward others, for their good, even when I am tired or am tempted to hurt them or get even.

___FAITHFULNESS--I have an unwavering commitment to others’ good and to the strengthening of my relationships.

___GENTLENESS--I operate from a reservoir of inner strength that keeps me from resorting to aggressive or desperate actions even when tested.

___SELF-CONTROL--I am able to live a non-anxious, inner controlled and reasonably well-managed life most of the time.