K. A Prenuptial Covenant for Couples (adapted with permission from John M. Drescher)

Identify and discuss each of your positions on the following:

1. Family Faith

a. Church membership                          b. Church attendance

c. Bible reading and prayer (daily? individually? as a couple/family?)

2. Household chores (how divided/shared?)

3. Children

a. How many?              b. When/how far apart?            c. General approach to discipline

d. What if we can't have children?

e. What if we have unplanned children?

4. Work

a. Both work outside the home?

b. What career goals?

5. Money

a. Expected/hoped for income                                       b. Saving/spending

c. Will we go into debt? For what items?

d. Who does bookkeeping?     

e. How much giving to church/charity?  

f. How much is each free to spend without consulting the other?

6. Privacy rights

a. Opening and reading each other’s mail/e-mail?

b. Allowing each other alone time and space?

7. Social needs

a. Regular and special times together? How often?        

b. Individual times for friends/personal interests

c. Regular vacations?                                        d. Common interests or hobbies?

8. Parents

a. Frequency of visits with each set of parents

b. Accept loans or gifts from parents?

9. Communication

a. Regular dates together?

b. Regular “couples meetings” to review schedules and finances, and to work on any problems in the relationship?

10. Sex

a. Complete fidelity in all respects!

b. What method of birth control?

c. Times to share freely our needs and feelings about this part of our relationship?

11. Seeking help

a. We agree to meet with a counselor six months after our marriage to review how our relationship is progressing.

b. We covenant to seek pastoral or professional help if we have any difficulty we are unable to resolve between us.

COVENANTERS:

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